10 minutes of hitbodidut in the morning
Hitbodidut (active personal meditative reflection and communication with the Source) is where the real work gets done – it’s where the relationship is built. It’s where we talk with the Source in our own language like we are talking with a best friend – where we lay it all out on the table. No formalities needed – it’s about being brutally honest.
You can yell and make demands. You can curse out of frustration. Plead your case for what you want and why. Make deals. It’s the time to express what’s really going on – to cry and let it all out to our Father in heaven. It’s also an opportune time to express gratitude for our greatest blessings.
Hitbodidut allows for us to develop the right headspace to navigate our lives – to reflect on the patterns of our life – to take our spiritual temperature – to feel the reverberations of our negative attributes – to recognize how the wall of our ego is blocking our connection to those we love – to gain perspective on how long it’s been since we’ve expressed love to a family member or focused on their needs.
The adversary wants our lives to be in fast motion. Always looking down at an iPhone, numbing out through vices, letting time pass without recognizing our unconsciousness – recovering from the slavery of our days – awaiting the next vacation from our work.
Winging it is not an effective way toward spiritual development. Meditation is the main structure which allows for us to develop and maintain the structures of our life.
Otherwise, we wait until a disaster to make change. And, sometimes disaster is what we need in order to wake up. By judging our own actions every day, we eliminate the need for judgments from above. By returning to our true selves, we eliminate the need for wake up calls. By expressing gratitude for the most important basics of our lives, we become worthy recipients for more.
Hitbodidut is a very overwhelming and distant concept for most people. But it’s something we can incorporate into our lives pretty easily right now.
I use the end of my morning Amidah (the silent standing prayer) for 10 minutes of hitbodidut. I start off with gratitude. I go through my family – my wife and children, one by one. I envision their faces and their emotions. I reflect on how much I am stepping up for them in their lives, what more I can do, where I can step out of the way to let them develop and step in to celebrate them. I offer a prayer for their health, happiness, artistic expression and spiritual development. For their friendships and connection to positivity, and joy in their connection to the Source. I go further and pray for my children’s soul mates, that they unite with a holy match who brings out the best in them and supports them. That they have healthy and holy children who are connected to truth. I pray for their material and spiritual success and for their joy throughout the process.
I pray for my family, my parents, grandparents, siblings, their spouses and children – all one by one, saying their names and seeing them and connecting to their journey – where they are today – and offer a custom prayer for blessing and growth and joy in their lives.
I express gratitude for my spiritual guides, one by one. For the spiritual ammunition they have provided me and the clarity they give me through continued guidance. For the effects they have had and still do on my relationship with myself, my wife and children, and the world. For shepherding me from slavery to freedom through deep understandings of life, Divine purpose and perspective. I pray for their health and success.
I express gratitude for my business partners, for their friendship, generosity and wisdom – whose mazel (drip from above) is intertwined with mine. For their spiritual development and health and joy and success. For their families health and happiness.
For my friends who inspire me and support me in every way.
I ask for help from above to completely align my will with the will of the Source.
And then I offer a prayer for our nation and for all of mankind. For global peace and unity. For conscious leadership. I pray for all those around the world who are suffering to be granted relief. For all in constriction to see the light and move closer toward it.
I feel that without this time, I can just let the day pass without giving myself the opportunity to see joy in what I’ve been blessed with and to express appreciation for those blessings. I feel that without this time, I can just wing it through the day – reacting to what comes at me, rather than proactively connecting to that which gives me purpose and joy. I feel that this is the wisest use of 10 minutes during my morning.